Vulnerability and Knee-quivering Fear

by | Jul 28, 2022 | Emotional Balance

~ Vulnerability
“The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.”
Oxford Dictionary of English

Vulnerability and knee-quivering fear – these are potent places of growth and transformation. At these emotional intersections there is a choice to either move away from the feeling or move toward it.

When we feel vulnerable our body is communicating information to us. We are close to something that is important to us but our body and mind have the opposite reaction. Vulnerability can be the guidepost to experiences that could expand our energy and connect us more deeply to ourselves.

At this vulnerable intersection our mind panics. Building our resilience in exploring with curiosity the experience of vulnerability and fear, noticing the places in the body where we hold this fear of being exposed to harm, including the response of our nervous system, noticing patterns of fight, flight, freeze and fawn (people pleasing!) helps us to learn, discern and make an informed decision.

Exploration of our relationship with vulnerability and fear helps us to unravel the discomfort we have with these feelings, opening a door to deeper parts of ourselves including radical ideas, creative desires, and expansive soul-aligned visions of future selves which might remain hidden without grounded inquiry.

Strategy

Exploring the Bodies Response to Vulnerability

  1. Take some time to find a comfortable place to sit in meditation.
  2. Hand on heart, hand on lower belly. Allow yourself to connect and bring awareness to the body and any sensations you notice.
  3. Take a moment to scan through the body and notice 2-3 places that are reacting to the feeling of vulnerability. You might notice breathing speed, heart rate, sweating, or other signs of anxiety. Alternatively you might feel numb and cut off from yourself. Is your stomach knotted up? Do you notice controlled tension in your upper shoulders with something hidden? Let yourself be gentle and curious.
  4. Allow yourself to move closer to your vulnerability allowing the emotion to move or grow bigger, staying present, noticing if there is discomfort. Sometimes as we observe the feeling it changes, revealing new layers to us. Is there something that the vulnerability or fear is hiding.
  5. What happens when you let emotions flow? Do they get bigger, or do they dissipate?
  6. Without expectation, notice if you see an inner doorway to yourself to help you drop into a deeper level of connection to yourself?

Follow-up Writing

Write about the experience allowing yourself to reflect on how you have dealt with your vulnerability in the past. Have you avoided it, dismissed it, stomped all over it? How would you like to deal with your vulnerability moving forward? Are you ready to set an intention to be present to your vulnerability?

Resources:

  • Brene Brown has a great book called “Daring Greatly” along with Ted talks and other books. She has researched and talks extensively about vulnerability and the importance of us learning how to be present to our vulnerability.
  • Oxford Dictionary of English